After hours and hours spent surfing for agencies, we sent out for some more information. We have about 10 brochures on our kitchen table that need to be read. I skimmed over them, and they all pretty much say the same thing. "Give us $ and we'll match you with a birthmother and you'll be a family in no time." The difference, as far as I can see, is the amount of advertising one agency does over another. And, when I say "advertising" I mean that they are advertising to birthmothers. Some agencies talk a lot about how much advertising they do to find the right birthmother match. And, some agencies talk about how quickly they match. Yet others don't mention how quickly they operate, they just talk about how happy we will be as a family.
Oh - one of them was particularly interesting. This agency does only "open" adoptions. An open adoption can be anything from a photo/letter once/year to regular visits with the birth parents. This agency must be all about the regular visits, because they included a letter from the adopted parents...who say how happy they are, etc etc. A letter from the birthmom...who says how great everything is because her son is happy and well-cared for, etc etc. But, the letter from the birthdad sort of blew my mind. He says how he visits all the time, can't wait to see his son, is considering moving nearby so he can see him more often, and even said his son "has four parents that love him very much". wow. I think I can handle the photo/letter once/year...but sharing parenting with the birthparents? I'm not sure I can do that.
So, the search continues. We realize we just need to pick one and go with it. If you know anyone who has adopted and they would recommend their agency...and they can help us in Texas, then please tell us about them. We'd love to hear their story. Thank you!
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